Planning a wedding is an exciting and joyous time, but it can also be a bit overwhelming, especially when you have overbearing family and friends who seem to have an opinion about every little detail. While their intentions may be good, it’s important to find a balance between their input and your own vision for your special day. Often their intentions are good, they may not realise just how overbearing they’re being and it can be tricky to navigate this situation amicably, which is why I chose to write this post. I hear far too often that ‘mum is being overbearing’ or ‘my maid of honour is taking over’ and it’s hard to find what to say. In this blog post, we’ll explore some tips and strategies for dealing with overbearing loved ones during your wedding planning process.
How to deal with overbearing loved ones
1. Set boundaries
One of the first steps in dealing with overbearing family and friends is setting clear boundaries. Let them know that while you appreciate their input, the final decisions will ultimately be yours and your partner’s. Politely but firmly assert your independence and remind them that it’s your wedding day, and you want it to reflect your own unique style and preferences. There’s a useful article here that focuses a lot on this.
2. Communicate Your Vision
Take the time to sit down with your loved ones and communicate your vision for the wedding. Share your ideas, themes, and overall aesthetic. By involving them in the planning process from the beginning, they may feel more included and less inclined to impose their own ideas. Remember, a little compromise can go a long way in keeping the peace.
3. Assign Roles and Responsibilities
One way to channel the energy of overbearing family and friends is to assign them specific roles and responsibilities. Give them tasks that align with their strengths and interests, such as researching vendors or organizing the seating arrangements. This way, they can feel involved and helpful without overstepping their boundaries.
4. Seek Professional Help
If the overbearing behavior becomes too much to handle, consider enlisting the help of a professional wedding planner. A wedding planner can act as a buffer between you and your loved ones, helping to navigate difficult conversations and mediating any conflicts that may arise. They can also provide valuable advice and guidance throughout the planning process.
5. Practice Self-Care
Wedding planning can be stressful, especially when dealing with overbearing family and friends. It’s important to prioritize self-care during this time. Take breaks, practice mindfulness, and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. By taking care of yourself, you’ll be better equipped to handle any challenges that come your way.
6. Be Gracious and Appreciative
While it’s important to assert your own vision, it’s also crucial to be gracious and appreciative of your loved ones’ support and enthusiasm. Remember that their intentions are likely coming from a place of love and excitement for your big day. Express your gratitude for their involvement, but also gently remind them of your own desires and preferences.
Conclusion
Remember, you are not the hosts, you are the guests of honour!
Dealing with overbearing family and friends during your wedding planning can be a delicate balancing act. By setting boundaries, communicating your vision, assigning roles, seeking professional help when needed, practicing self-care, and being gracious and appreciative, you can navigate this challenging situation with grace and ease. Remember, it’s your day, and with a little patience and understanding, you can create a wedding that reflects your unique love story.
For more wedding ideas, take a look at the rest of my wedding tips or browse my Ultimate Wedding Guide.
